Sometimes, yes you should.
When we consider our ‘health’ we often put way too much emphasis on nutrition and exercise. And very little on anything else. The fact is our health is unique to us and can vary from day to day and even more from year to year.
So, when should we skip the gym and rather see a friend? It really depends on what we need. Our circumstances? I really suggest focusing on getting in touch with your body . The mind-body connection is so strong. By checking in with our thoughts and behaviours we can create an awareness that could assist us with understanding our own bodies and our current needs. Great ways to get started with our mind-body connection.
- Pilates
- Yoga
- Meditation
- Tai chi
When did you last ask yourself what do I need today? If we are not getting enough sleep, skipping a gym session to get some well-deserved rest is a great idea. If we have been working overtime and have not been able to prioritise the relationships that are important to us. Then yes, booking that coffee date is more important than hitting the gym.
How important is booking that coffee with a friend?
According to the Harvard study, it should be at the top of your list. Robert Waldinger explains that the findings of the Harvard study are very clear ‘good relationships keep us happier and healthier.’ He shared with us in his Ted talk about how important the quality of these relationships are and how they actually impact how long we live for.
High conflict, isolation and loneliness are not only negatively affecting our physical health but also our brains.
Waldinger explains that warm relationships act as stress regulators within the body. This was very clear to me after having a particularly rough evening with my kids. I lost my temper at bedtime and had guilt about my reaction. I was lucky to have my very supportive husband talk me through what I was feeling. The next day I ran into a friend, she shared her evening with me. She had, had a similar one. The only difference is that she was a single mom and didn’t have there to talk to. She lacked that support and because of that her stressors were still high from the night before.
These warm relationships don’t only come in a partner. They might be a friend or even a family member. The key thing is that you feel like this person has your back. That you could call them in an emergency, and they would be there for you.
Warm relationships don’t come easy either. They can be complicated, messy and if we are honest, they are hard work. We can now see through the Harvard study that this time and effort spent on building these warm relationships is worth it but how can we get started? If you have a partner, perhaps try book some quality time with each other? A date night out of your normal environment can do wonders. How about checking in on a friend? Remember to be yourself (not who you think they want you to be. Focus on kindness and giving but also protect your boundaries. Looking to make a new friend? Try volunteering for a cause you care about or trying something new like a new sport or hobby?
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