Parenting is such a roller coaster ride hitting a mom burn out can be easy; there are always high highs and low lows. Sometimes those lows seem to go on for a long, long time; this is relatively normal, parenting is hard and sometimes there are patches where things are just a bit rough, like a teething baby, or a moody toddler.
That being said, it’s a really good idea to keep an eye on yourself (and your partner for that matter) to make sure that you aren’t headed for mom burn out.
Not sure what the signs are?
Below are some of the more popular traits of mom burnout:
- You’re constantly exhausted, even if you got a really good night’s sleep and had a relatively calm day
- You find yourself overreacting to situations; your toddler messing their food, your baby not falling asleep, your partner saying the wrong thing; small, almost insignificant instances like these seem to send you over the edge, and quickly.
- Your life is completely child-centric, you don’t do anything by yourself of your friends and you’ve started to isolate yourself.
- Sometimes you find yourself dreaming of your child-free days or just a child-free day, but immediately feel incredible guilt for having those thoughts.
- You can’t remember who you were before you became a mom.
- You would never give off the impression of being anything less than 100% happy, no one would no what’s really going on inside, sometimes even the people closest to you.
It’s important to remember that mom burnout isn’t limited to just these signs, simply feeling “off” and unlike yourself is more than often more than enough reason to seek some advice or help.
So, if you are dealing with mom burnout, what can you do?
- Try to take some time out for yourself, even if it means you taking a nap while your partner or friend watches the kids in a separate room.
- Get help with things that you can delegate for example housework. If this will take some pressure off and you can afford it, do it!
- Learn new skills to help you cope; my e-course Lifehacks for Millennial Moms is the perfect solution for this, read more about it over here
- Confide in your partner or a close friend about what is going on, this will instantly make your load feel lighter.
Mom burn out is something that many moms deal with, and at the same time, it’s something that not many speak about. It’s important for you to remember that this does not make you a bad mom, in fact, actively looking for solutions makes you an incredible mom!